Oh NO, he didn't...

As I am writing this I am speaking with a new buddy of mine, about a topic one should never, EVER discuss with a member of the male gender. The topic of "Female Beauty". Let me say that again so that it can sink in. I was speaking to a person without the ability to give birth about his perceptions of female beauty.

Yea, I sounds like a bad idea to me as well. But nevertheless, I indulged my new acquaintance. To be fair, I will state that my friend is of African heritage and his culture still values many traditional ideals and ideals that are far removed from those valued here in American culture. With that being said...I completely disagreed with almost everything he said.

Now, I rarely take the opinions of the male gender into account when forming my own views of feminine beauty, but I will listen with open ears. It seems impossible to me that someone who is not a woman, would try to construct an (often confining) view of what a woman should be.

So this guy tells me that he he prefers women with natural hair (not unprocessed hair but rather without any extensions). Anyone who knows me, knows that this is a touchy subject for me. I consider myself very well read and knowledgeable as to the hair of African-American women (though by far we are not the only ones weaving it up). He tells me that he believes a woman's hair to be her crowning glory (which I agree with). So is he then trying to say that having extensions, weaves, what-have-you in your hair is...not beautiful?

I definitely loves myself some extra hair...braids. weaves, buns...it doesn't matter. So I am very pro creative hair. I consider myself and other women no less beautiful because we desire length, volume or protection for our hair (which we achieve through the use of extensions). Seeing as my friend is damn near bald..again, his argument holds no water.

Personally, I've always felt that women should be free to be creative. It is the visually stunning choices we make, which brand as as women...new age women to be exact. I mean if we went around looking all plain and boring (and without hair, might I add)..there would be another name for us...MEN!